Marriage and Adultery

Last night, I was reading the Chinese evening paper.

The headlines have been about Jack Neo's adulterous affair.

A columnist wrote that experts said that adultery is NOT the REASON of a broken marriage. Instead, it is the RESULT of a broken marriage.

Call me biased or feministic, but I think that line applies to women, not men.

Men are supposed to be the head of the household. That would imply that men ought to take the lead in most, if not all, things as far as a family is concerned. And that should include romancing his wife, not his wife trying to humour him and romancing him all or most of the time.

If a man stops romancing his wife, it could mean only one thing: the man no longer loves the wife, and that is the reason a marriage breaks down. However, men take this as a valid reason to fool around. Women, despite the marriage that's broken down, often continue (stupidly) to abide by their marriage vows.

By and by, when the woman's heart finally concedes defeat and she decides to look for love from another man, she is labelled as 'unfaithful' and 'adulteress'.

For women, adultery is definitely the RESULT of a broken marriage.

For men, not necessarily so. Very often, their adultery is the REASON for a broken marriage to take place.